“There is no greater leadership challenge than parenting.”
Children’s ministry is no longer just about children. It’s just as much about their parents. If you want to make an impact in the lives of children, then you must influence their greatest influencers.
"No one has more influence in a child’s life than his or her parents."
It’s not easy being a parent. I heard someone say, “Before I was a parent, I had three theories about raising children, now I have three children and no theories.” If you’re a parent, I’m sure you can identify. And if you have more than one child, you’re also a referee.
One mom said when her children become unruly, she has a nice, safe playpen. She said when her kids are finished, she comes out of the playpen. If you’re a parent, you also know what it’s like to walk around your house and wonder how everything you touch is sticky.
Okay, enough of that. Let’s talk about leading parents well. Your strategy to lead parents is just as important as your strategy to lead children. I have found that many parents want to be the spiritual leader for their children, they just don’t know where to start.
As children’s ministry leaders, we have an incredible opportunity to come alongside them as a resource provider, cheerleader and prayer partner. Let’s talk about how we can support and encourage parents in discipling their children.
There is a much different family dynamic today. If you’re going to lead parents well in today’s culture, you need to know the unique dynamics of their families. Consider these recent findings about today's families.
There are nearly 13.6 million single parents raising over 21 million children.
61% of same-sex couples who live together are married.
65% of children live with married parents compared to 85% in 1968.
Over 18 million adults are cohabiting.
65% of remarriages involve children from a prior marriage
on at least one side, creating a blending family.
There are 2.7 million grandparents raising their grandchildren.
4% of adopted children are being raised by gay parents.
Born roughly between 1980 and 2000, the Millennials are the young couples you are trying to reach and involve in your church. There are over 75 million Millennials in the United States. They comprise 24% of the population. And at the time of this writing, more than 17 million Millennial women are now mothers and that number is growing by more than a million every year. In fact, 82% of children born each year are born to Millennials.
Technology is their mentor. They go online for parenting advice.
Millennial Parents Invest in Their Children.
They are struggling financially.
Many don't claim to be religious.
So how can you lead them well?
Include them in the planning of the church. Why? Because they are the future of the church.
Talk it and walk it.
Move from monologue to dialogue.
Help parents make church a priority.
Equip parents with tools they can use to disciple their children.
Partner with parents in prayer.
Recommend some age-appropriate devotionals for families. Give parents a list of good devotional books they can read with their child.
Get some good music on their smart phones.
Preferably some of them will be songs they sing at church.
Recommend some good apps they can use to learn God’s Word and review what they are being taught.
These points are from my new book "Lead Well in Children's Ministry." It contains over 30 years of wisdom from leading in children's ministry.
You can get the book now in both ebook and paperback formats. You can order at this link.